How To Get Rid Of Your Fake Friends

Have you ever stopped and wondered why people you call your friends are actually your

friends? While genuine friendships see people having a lot in common, emotional upliftment and a shoulder to cry on, some friendships are conditional. According to counselling psychologist, Nthabiseng Mogashoa, if you want to get rid of fake friends, get married, lose weight or get a job! Mogashoa explains that some friends only stick around you to uplift themselves and feel better, and once you stop being their comfort zone, they run for the hills. "People are often shocked when they lose friends because wonderful things are happening in their lives, but it really isn't much of a shock. Some friends keep you around because you feed their ego, either by not looking attractive or being down on your luck. The minute you change your life and end their feeding frenzy, they give you the cold shoulder," she says. "But that is the beauty of it. The sooner someone can show you their true colours, the better. No one needs false people around them, let alone those you consider friends." Mogashoa gives a list of scenarios that could find you friend-less. LOSING WEIGHT American jazz singer and actress Ledisi Anibade Young is quoted as saying that following her recent four dress sizes weight loss, not everyone around her was happy for her. She chronicled how some friends were not happy that she lost weight, something that really shocked her. For Mogashoa, she says this is not shocking at all. "There is a simple explanation for why some people get jealous of friends who have recently undergone drastic weight changes. "In psychological terms, we call it levelling. Some people love stepping over others to feel better about themselves. Being the fat one of the bunch can make a person vulnerable to such emotional predators. "Anyone carrying a lot of weight is seen as the clown of the group, no competition, and someone who isn't on everyone else's level. This is the reason why some people may enjoy the company of overweight people, because then they get to steal the spotlight." Mogashoa says as a result, when the overweight person sheds some pounds, the claws come out. "Now they are getting the attention and compliments. Now they may suddenly have confidence, interact more with people and can be the life of the party." GETTING MARRIED /COMMITTED Rapper Kanye West also revealed how he lost friends when he got married to Kim Kardashian. "Not everyone will be happy that you found your happily-ever-after. Some friends will simply turn their backs on you for the simple reason that you are considered 'not fun' anymore. No longer can you go on all night drinking sprees, (and) engage in having multiple sexual once-off(s) and talking about it the following day while nursing a hangover," Mogashoa explains. "Some friends simply cannot handle you growing up. It becomes an uneven playing field because you cannot join them on their single-life escapades anymore, so after numerous failed attempts to get you back on their level, they will simply move on to other people who can feed their single-and-ready-to-mingle lifestyle." GETTING AN INCOME According to Mogashoa, some people like the concept of other people depending on them, especially if their friend is unemployed. "This is called the Messiah Complex. Some people have the need to restore, nurture and be the helping hand, and they tend to bring that mentality into their friendships," Mogashoa says. "In friendships where one friend works and the other does not, the Messiah Complex may come into play. The working friend may relish the idea of being depended upon. Always being the one who initiates outings, and always paying the bill. It gives them a sense of power and control over the other person." She adds that if there is a power shift, some friends will not be able to handle that. Mogashoa advises that if you ever find yourself in these scenarios, do not try to convince the other person otherwise. "Any animosity from your friends after undergoing a lifestyle change shows that the friendship was not genuine in the first place."

Tarzan's Ape Man Josh Ponte Reveals The Truth Behind The Legend

Tarzan, having acclimated to life in London, is called back to his former home in the jungle to investigate the activities at a mining encampment. Gorilla expert Josh Ponte has no hesitation in vouching for the old "no animals were harmed" claim that pops up on screen at the end of The Legend of Tarzan. "I can 100 per cent give you my assurance that no animals were harmed in making this film, because no animals were present on this film," he says. "If anyone was hurt, it was the visual effects guys who worked day and night trying to create the digital animals." Yes, you read that right. Though the film is packed with Africa's wildest creatures, not one of them is real: not the lion against which Alexander Skarsgard's Tarzan nuzzles; not the elephant whose trunk he caresses; not the ostriches with whom he runs or the wildebeest he corrals. Not even the gorilla with whom he violently wrestles. In fact, especially not the gorilla with whom he violently wrestles. Not just because Akut was born and raised in a computer, but because he's not even a gorilla. Well, not quite. "They're not gorillas in the Edgar Rice Burroughs books," says Ponte, who served as technical adviser on the film, facilitated the location shoot, and has a co-writing credit on several of the traditional songs sung by the Kuba tribe visited by Tarzan (aka John Clayton, aka Lord Greystoke) and his wife Jane (Margot Robbie). Burroughs' ape was in fact called a mangani. "It's the caricature of a gorilla through Victorian eyes," he explains. "They're more this thing that the Victorians were really scared of, this wild, huge beast, rather than the slightly placid, tender animals that gorillas really are. That's not to say silverbacks aren't without the ability to fight and display." Ponte knows full well how a gorilla can turn, because he's had it happen to him. He has spent a good chunk of the past 15 years working with gorillas in Gabon, in western Africa. In 2009, he was appointed special adviser to the country's president, tasked with helping formulate the management plan for the national parks that were established in 2002. He organised the loan of the presidential helicopter that allowed the production to capture the stunning images of the jungle to which Tarzan returns when he once again hears the call of the wild. Ponte first arrived in Gabon in 2001, having fled the UK after a relationship ended. He took a job managing a scheme to repatriate orphaned gorillas in a patch of rainforest that was seven hours' travel – by plane, car and boat – from the nearest town. "The truth is I was nursing a broken heart," he says, "and that will make a man behave irrationally". Eighteen months into his two-year stint, Ponte was challenged by the eldest of the young male gorillas. "He was developing into sexual maturity and he became convinced that our play wrestling was something else," he says. "I couldn't convince him that I wasn't after his women, so I left." There is a scene in The Legend of Tarzan – which is directed by David Yates, who made the last four Harry Potter films (and the forthcoming spin-off Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them) – that echoes Ponte's real-world experience: returning to the tribe of mangani that had raised him, Tarzan realises he must face off with Akut, who used to be his brother but now sees him as a traitor for having left the jungle. The fight that ensues would be enough to send most men back home to England post-haste. "That is more extreme," Ponte says of the on-screen clash. "At no point did I and Marco, as he was called, run towards each other and fly 20 feet through the air and lock in deadly combat. But he scared the living daylights out of me, that's for sure." In fact, apes rarely fight with the intention to kill or maim. "The vast majority of fighting in gorilla communities is about display: beating your chest, running around, breaking trees, beating the ground," he says. "You try to avoid coming to blows at all cost. To actually get hurt in battle is very bad news in the forest, because you get infected very easily and you die very easily." You might say, then, that the fight in Tarzan is loosely anchored in the real world but aspires to something grander, more mythical. And in a sense, that's the case with the movie as a whole: not for nothing is it dubbed a "legend". The creatures are digital creations because it would have been impossible to get the real things to behave the way they do in the film. The aerial shots of the jungle are genuine – "anything that looks beautiful and astonishing and very real forest, that is Gabon," Ponte says – but much of the film was shot on sound stages in London. Real forest and unreal sets were seamlessly spliced to create an elevated version of Africa. The film draws on real elements for its narrative, too. Uncommonly for a jungle romp, it has a well fleshed-out historical back story – of the merciless exploitation of its African colonies by Belgium at the tail end of the 19th century. So Christoph Waltz plays yet another variation on his now-familiar suave villain turn, as King Leopold's linen-clad man on the ground Leon Rom (loosely based on a real historical figure). So we see natives in chains being forced into labour, a generation after the slave trade has been outlawed. So we see obscene numbers of elephant tusks being carted out of the jungle to service the ivory trade. To Ponte, all this was a big part of the attraction of the movie. "Films operate on three primary levels: they're entertaining, they're emotive and they're informative," he says. "Hollywood often shirks from the third of those but David hasn't and I think that should be celebrated. "If this film makes one kid get onto Google and find out more about that chapter in African history, then what a great service the filmmakers have provided."

Yinka Ayefele Debunks Rumours Of Conversion To Islam

Popular gospel ariste Yinka Ayefele has refuted claims that he has converted to Islam.

In a recent press release shared by Ayefele’s publicist, David Ajiboye it was stated that Ayefele is still a Christian and has no way denounced his religion. Claims of a possible conversion by the singer arose as a result of his presence at a Ramadan lecture in Ibadan on Tuesday, June 28, 2016. In the statement, David Ajiboye informed that Ayefele’s radio station only hosted a lecture in honour of the fasting period for Muslims. The statement reads in part: “We believe the rumour must have emanated from the annual Ramadan Lecture which Fresh 105.9FM owned by Ayefele organized on Tuesday, in Ibadan. “Our station, Fresh 105.9FM had invited popular Islamic preacher, Alhaji Muideen Ajani Bello as the Guest Preacher at our annual Ramadan Lecture which had over 4,000 people in attendance and because of this, some naïve minds went to town to spread the rumour about Ayefele’s conversion.” “We believe its part of our social responsibility to organize such a spiritual rebirth programme to sensitize our Muslim listeners on the ideals of Islam most especially in this holy season.” He added that regardless of race, religion and/or color it is the social responsibility for his radio station to sensitize its Muslim listeners.

Wande Coal Set To Collaborate With Keri Hilson, Jazze Pha?

The Black diamond singer may be 'cooking' something in the studio with the producer and singer. Wande Coal has been pictured in the United States with American singers and record producers Keri Hilson and Jazze Pha for what might be a glorious music collaboration in the making. Sharing on Instagram, Wande wrote: "Ultra Vibes with Beautiful people...Keri Hilson, Jazze Pha and Ray bells. Iskabaaaaaaaaaaaa". The 'Superwoman' crooner since release of his sophomore album "Wanted" has gotten accolades and since been on international tour exploring the United Kingdom and the United States amongst other places. The singer has been in recent features of fellow acts' songs including Olamide's 'Who you epp' and DJ Spinall's 'The money', and also did a refix of Drake's 'One dance' featuring DJ Tunez. His collaboration feature 'My woman, my everything' with Patoranking has been nominated in the Best Collaboration category of the forthcoming Nigerian Entertainment Awards 2016, which is a very tight competition considering the other nominees on the list. The 'Ololufe' songstar has also signed a new management deal with global management consultancy firm Upfront and Personal following his parting ways with former manager Bankulli owing to irreconcilable differences.

Onyeka Onwenu To Pay =N=5m, Apologise To Tony Okoroji For Defamation

The full weight of the law has come down on the veteran singer Onyeka Onwenu following charges of defamation preferred against her by former three-time president of the Performing Musicians Employers Association of Nigeria (PMAN), Tony Okoroji. A Lagos State High Court asked her to pay a sum of =N=5 million for defamation and publicly apologize to Okoroji who is also the Chairman of Copyright Society of Nigeria (COSON).

Ms. Onwenu had been at war since 2011 when Okoroji went to court following a perceived defamatory article in Vanguard newspaper. Onyeka had accused Okoroji of embezzlement of Christie Igbokwe's burial funds, and also alleged that he is threatening to murder her. The case was earlier taken to court, but thrown out in 2015 in a Lagos High Court presided over by Mrs. I.O Kasali. But an appeal by Okoroji has proved successful. The judgement was delivered yesterday, Thursday, June 30, 2016 by a Lagos High Court sitting in Ikeja by Hon Justice I. O. Akinkugbe. Reacting to the judgment, a jubilant Okoroji said “Once again, the courts have come to my rescue proving that despite what may be said to the contrary, you can obtain justice in Nigeria. I wish I never had to take Ms. Onwenu to court. She however left me with little choice. This has taken close to four years of going in and out of court but at the end of the day, I must thank Honourable Justice Akinkugbe who the Almighty has again used to do justice for her professionalism. I must also thank my lawyer, Mr. Justin Ige for his commitment and thoroughness’.He continues to say, ‘I have committed much of my life to fighting for the welfare of every musician in Nigeria and protecting the interest of all including Ms. Onyeka Onwenu. In the battle, I have spared myself no inconvenience or discomfort and countless times, I have had to risk my life, my reputation and the welfare of my family.‘Working with my colleagues at COSON, we have made available to musicians across Nigeria hundreds of millions of naira as we set out with the building of the most professional, transparent and accountable organization in the history of the creative industries in Nigeria, something that was considered impossible just a few years ago. “I went to court in self defence. Till today, I do not know what wrong I did to her. As someone I considered a close colleague and friend, I was shocked at the level of hatred she had generated within herself to justify her all-consuming campaign of lies without foundation to destroy the one thing she knows that I cherish most; my integrity. “Every appeal to Ms Onwenu to reconsider what she was doing fell on deaf ears. Onyeka Onwenu has known me for many years. She knows very well that under no circumstance would I take a penny that does not belong to me but it suited her purpose to project me to the world as a thief. Onyeka knows that I am a stickler for rules and order but it made her happy to tell the world that I am lawless and a despot. “I know that very few people will believe this: three years ago, Onyeka Onwenu went to the Police Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS) in Ikeja to wickedly report that I was chasing her around at night in a red Jeep in her neighborhood with the intent to assassinate her! “This crazy report with absolutely no foundation was made a few days to my birthday (December 22) and Christmas. It took the wisdom of the police authorities and the intervention of elders in the music industry music industry such as Evangelist Ebenezer Obey Fabiyi, Prof Victor Uwaifo and Dr. Ben Ofoeze to save me from the wickedness carefully planned for me by someone I had treated with so much respect and love as my sister and friend. “My commitment to my colleagues in the music industry, the whole of the Arts and the Nigerian nation remains unshaken. From the work we are doing, I see a very bright future soon for the creative industries in Nigeria. How many times have I passed this road? I hope my experience will be a lesson to young Nigerians that if you keep your hands clean and do your job diligently, it does not matter what wickedness any man or woman may contrive against you, the good Lord will protect you. The harder they come, the harder they fall”. Reacting to the judgment, ace broadcaster, Patrick Doyle said: “Some will recall that I publicly cautioned Ms. Onwenu when she began her ill-advised war of attrition against Okoroji. She refused to listen. Now, the chickens have come home to roost and she has to pay for her attempt to destroy a good man.".... who is being tipped to be the next president of Nigeria.... Onyeka Onwenu then signed to Premier Record Limited is well known for her heart warming and evergreen songs such as 'One love', 'Iyogogo', 'Wait for me', among others.

Oil Price Drops Over 3% As Nigeria’s Output Surges

Oil prices at the international market plunge dropped more than three per cent on

Thursday, June 30, following the spike in Nigeria’s production capacity. Production in Nigeria has risen to about 1.9 million barrels per day (bpd) from 1.6 million, due to repairs and a lack of new major attacks on pipelines in the Delta region, the Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation said. According to Reuters, the market jumped more than 25 per cent in the second quarter, as part of an 85 per cent rebound since hitting 12-year lows early in 2016, as unforeseen production cuts from Canada to Nigeria eased the glut that prompted the worst price rout in a generation. Resurgent Nigerian supply will put pressure on prices, Goldman Sachs said, adding that outages caused by Canadian wildfires would virtually end by September. OPEC’s oil output leaped in June to its highest in recent history, a Reuters’ survey showed, as Nigeria’s output partially recovers from militant attacks and Iran and Gulf members boost supplies. Brent futures for August delivery, which expired on Thursday, June 30, settled down 93 cents, or 1.8 percent, at $49.68 a barrel.

Abia Crisis: We Would Rather Die Than Allow Uche Ogah Be Governor, PDP

The Abia state chapter of the Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, has stated that it would do all within its powers to ensure that Uche Ogah is not inaugurated as Governor of the state. According to members of the party, would rather die than see Uche Ogah take the seat of the Governor. Speaking after an emergency meeting in Umuahia yesterday night, the state chairman of PDP, Johnson Onuigbo, said the action of INEC to issue Ogah a certificate of return could throw the state into anarchy Best prices of phones, accessories & gadgets on PricePadi.com “We are ready for them, we are ready to die. If they do it, then they are inviting anarchy and confusion in the state. “Abia is not safe. I didn’t want to believe the rumor that the state will soon be invaded by the army because this is not a war zone. “We want to inform the world that there is tension in Abia because democracy is about to be raped. As a party, we will resist any move by anybody to undermine the peace in the state,” he said